Monday, June 12, 2017

Finish Line: Our Friendship Has Run Its Course





One of the greatest assets in my life is my tribe of friends, and I do not take them for granted. I have worked very hard over the past year to tighten my circle, and weed out that which had no value. Trust me when I tell you that it took a lot of tough decisions, and a few doses of brutal honesty with myself. I seriously had to complete an assessment of my relationships, and literally evaluate what value, if any certain folks added to my life.

I am at the point in my life where my tribe reflects my vibe. I am not in the same space and place that I was just a short twelve months ago. This is an AMAZING thing, I promise. Life is about evolution, progression, and constant development. I am enjoying being present in every moment of my own growth.

Now with this growth came the realization that some people in my life were undeserving of my friendship. Over the past year I have let many people go, and I have no regrets whatsoever. Of all the people that I have severed ties with, there was one friend that was very special to me and letting her go was one of the toughest decisions of my adult life.  


I had tried to be patient and understanding of the toxicity my friend was bringing to our relationship, but then I stepped back and realized that I was not required to be tolerant of her madness. I also realized that my tolerance of her bad behavior is what allowed her to continue to take our friendship for granted, and spill her negative energy into the sacred space that was our relationship. 

This friend literally contributed nothing positive to my life, not one single thing. When she was present it was literally in the physical sense, as she was absent as she could be. I accepted the fact that we had chosen separate paths at this point in life after being friends for more than 16 years. TIME…that was the only thing keeping our friendship going. 

I held onto the relationship tight, because…FEAR. The fear of the unknown on the other side of the losing the friendship held me hostage in a relationship that was without a pulse. That is completely my fault, and for that I take ownership, and apologize. I have no ill will or malice towards my former friend. I wish her nothing short of the best, and I pray that she experiences growth in due time.

To my former friend that I have not spoken to in months, if you should ever wonder why our friendship is no more I threw together a short list of your greatest offenses:
  1. You lied about trying to pursue entrepreneurial endeavors. I had to hear about it through the grapevine. Seriously? I am the cheer captain when it comes to celebrating my friends. You never, ever had to lie to me Craig (Friday voice)!
  2. I had a major surgical procedure a few months back, and when I woke up in recovery I had a text from you that read “Have a safe procedure.” What in thee hell?!?! You mean to tell me that you could not be there in my time of need? The best you could do was a damn text message?
  3. You were the negative undertone in the room each time I would bring a group of women together. Smart rhetoric, shady commentary, and just flat out nastiness is what you brought to the table. I personally have zero tolerance for women who are unable to play well with other women. It is the greatest sign of insecurity. 
  4. You constantly acted as if you were better than the rest of the world. Your energy was fed by surrounding yourself with others who you felt needed you for tangible things such as housing, money, and transportation to name a few. You were never better than me or anyone else, and “things” do not make you a better person. I did not need tangible things from you as I had my own. A word of advice: You should surround yourself with like minded individuals, dream catchers, and goal seekers. Opposed to people who are hanging onto you for what you can “do” for them.    
  5. You had to be celebrated for the most basic things i.e. owning a home, owning a vehicle, having a job, etc. I’m sorry but the last time I checked you don’t get celebrated for Adulting.
  6. Our relationship revolved around your world. I love to coordinate outings for my friends. Each time I extended an invitation you would have a laundry list of pre-requisites from the departure time being complimentary to your schedule, to the list of attendees being people you featured. Reality check…you are not the Queen of Sheba!
  7. You stopped being present in our relationship, and literally checked out. Now we all lead our own lives with partners, children, careers, etc., and I do not expect to speak to you daily. However, I do take issue with you not acknowledging my calls or text messages, but having time to make frequent posts on social media. #Priorities 
  8. You stopped being happy for me. You were jealous of my other friendships, and my joy. Your own misery and insecurities barred you from being genuinely excited for my growth and blessings. Major offense as I do not dim my light for anyone.
  9. You behaved like an immature child by constantly posting subliminal, shade filled messages on social media. The memes, the quotes, and the thirst were exhausting. You behaved in a passive manner, and delivered your thoughts indirectly via social media. This type of foolishness is not to be tolerated.
  10. You lost my trust and respect. My love, loyalty, and energy must be preserved at all costs. Our friendship was draining and undeserving of what I bring to the table. 
The “letting go” was the greatest blessing of this whole ordeal. Everything I thought I was losing was returned to me in abundance. I had been blocking my own blessings by holding onto something that was no more. The moment I ended my toxic friendships God blessed me with many new relationships that have proven far more substantive than I could have ever imagined. 

This experience has taught me to not allow fear to get in my way, that it is okay to remove toxicity from your life regardless of the level of difficulty, I am far too valuable to be subjected to bad behavior, and to keep growing and shining. 

read more
Saturday, June 3, 2017

Sharing Is Caring: Canvas Skin Spa






To know me is to know that my selfish levels are fairly low, and being territorial is just not in my nature. Well there is one exception to my innate traits, and that is Canvas Skin Spa. I am sorry that I am not sorry, because I seriously wanted to keep the sacred space that is Canvas Skin Spa to my darn self!

Quick back story, a few months ago your girl was down to the hospital recovering from a medical procedure. As fate would have it my nurse, Jasmine was a fellow Glammie, we started chit chatting and the rest is just plain old history. She referred me to Canvas Skin Spa, and assured me that I would not be disappointed.

Service

I knew that I was dead wrong when I called on a Wednesday requesting a full course of services for Saturday of that same week. Nevertheless, the ladies over at Canvas Skin Spa accommodated me, and booked my services. I scheduled a full facial, manicure, pedicure, brow sculpting, and lip waxing, yes all of that...your girl had been on sick and shut in status for four whole weeks.

I shimmied on down to Canvas Skin Spa on Saturday looking like an extra on Underground (all kinds of raggedy). The owner of the spa, Bridget rendered my services to perfection. I began with my facial which included all natural products ranging from rose water to brown sugar. Chile! Bridget put me to sleep, woke me up, and put me back down for a secondary nap.

My manicure and pedicure were EVERYTHING! They included ground coffee, essential oils and extracts, and a complimentary massage that stimulated circulation in my both my upper and lower extremities.

Last, but certainly not least was the waxing services….BAAAAAYYYBBBBYYY! Now I will admit that I was nervous as all get out as I do not play about my brows. Well…strike that as I messed around and let the self-proclaimed #BrowKang play around with my brows a few months earlier, and he had me screaming “Take Me To The King!” non-stop for four months. I cannot make this crap up. I will save that horror story for another day.

I knew Bridget was the truth when she said “I know that you sleep on your right side because your right brow has a bald spot on the tail end!” Listen Linda, I hollered because she was spot on with her assessment. Now she did put my bald spot on front street, but she also recommended that I begin sleeping on a satin pillowcase immediately to remedy the issue. See that right there is what I am talking about. Don’t call out a problem if you are not going to come with the solution! When she finished my brows and handed me the mirror I let out a loud “Ooohhhh you did that Brow Whisperer!” Yes, I ordained her The Brow Whisperer as she brought my brows back to life, and back to reality. #BrowKang who?!?!? #BrowWhisperer all day, every day, and day!

I’m sorry…I got so caught up in my brow waxing experience that I forgot to share that my lip waxing was perfection as well, because for the first time in my adult life I did not have major redness and skin irritation afterwards. 

Ambiance/Décor

Canvas Skin Spa is small, quaint, and decorated with the flyest vintage décor. It feels like you are visiting the home of your eclectic girlfriend with the bomb style. It is warm, inviting, and homely. The lighting is low for maximum relaxation and comfort. There are private rooms for skin and waxing services, and there is a communal area for manicures and pedicures.

The playlist in the background has everything from Fred Hammond to Amerie depending on the day of the week. Again, totally reminiscent of your eclectic girlfriend with a musical palette that ranges from techno to soul, and incudes everything in between.

In addition to the menu of spa services, you can purchase a full range of natural products to maintain your self-care during the week. You can buy everything from natural bars of soap (my world stops if I do not have my mango and sage soaps) to hemp oil, to skin moisturizers.

You can also grab the most fly summer purse, beach hat, and handmade jewelry. Yes, Canvas Skin will not only have your mind and body looking and feeling right, but they will get your fashions in order too!

I am apart of the Friday Nite Crew..woot woot! Friday Nite Divas including myself always bring light fare, snacks, and wine. Saturday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday are complete serenity and tranquility. You should book according to your preference, and the type of services you would like rendered.

More important than the tangible décor and ambiance are the women Canvas Skin Spa serve. Any day of the week you will find sophisticated, sassy, sharp, and witty women from all walks of life. They share wisdom, wise tales, humor, celebrity gossip, faith, corporate war stories, entrepreneurial journeys, business trends, fashion and style tips. We stay hours after our services have been completed just to experience one another. It is pure fellowship, sisterhood, and my own personal village. For this, I am beyond grateful! Shoutout to some of my main Divas, Ms. Geri, Lisa, Sandra, Jessica, Ms. Roz, Ms. Mary, Ms. Belynda (with a “Y” honey), Darlene, Ms. Vaxine, Ms. Gwen, Ms. Vicki, and all the other ladies that frequent Canvas Skin Spa.

Quality

I must emphasize that all the services rendered at Canvas Skin Spa are natural, meaning no chemicals, preservatives or anything else that could cause bodily harm. I am talking honey, brown sugar, ground coffee, rose water, essential oils, and Himalayan pink sea salt. Yeah….all of that! So, if you are about that gel, acrylic, acetone, toxin, sliced cuticle life then I recommend that you stay right at your neighborhood salon. If you practice self-care, and place a premium on your holistic skincare and nailcare regimens then Canvas Skin Spa is the place for you.

Bridget and her staff are uber experienced and knowledgeable. They have been in business for years, their reputations precede them, and their clientele have nothing but rave reviews for the business and level of service.


Bridget is EVERYTHING and a total Godsend as she has curated and facilitates a space for women to receive all natural beauty services, fellowship, create lifelong friendships, and so much more. She has also been here before as she is like your Nana who does not believe in modern medicine, and has an herb, oil, or spice to cure any and all ailments. I say that in a good way as y’all know Nana will have that walking pneumonia cured in 24-48 hours with a few roots, onions, and some salve for good measure. Correct me when I am wrong, and acknowledge me when I am right!

Look at my skin and brows pulled all the way together in this picture. My skin has not been this clear since 1988! It is nothing but a testament to what maintaining a consistent regimen with Canvas Skin Spa can do for your life. 


Danielle is the makeup artist extraordinare who can beat a face to perfection! To all of my ladies who constantly call, email, and inbox me soliciting makeup services, I am never coming back….EVER! So, if you need your face carved to perfection for any occasion you can book Danielle, and Canvas Skin Spa to serve your needs. Yes, I have seen their work, and I approve ten times over.

In addition to whipping faces together, Danielle KILLS the nail art, and I am being modest. We have coined the phrase #DaniDidIt for Danielle and the works of art she puts forth every day.  As if being an amazing artist was not enough, Danielle is just a BOMB person. She is the perfect mixture of fly, no nonsense, and woke. 








Here is some of her makeup work, beyond gorgeous. 




Here are a few pics that showcase the masterpieces Danielle has created on my hands:


 

 



Overall Experience

I can sum my experience up as impeccable, and unmatched. Canvas Skin Spa is a safe space and refuge for the clientele it serves, and a place for us to decompress regardless of life's happenings in the days before our appointment. When you cross the threshold of Canvas Skin Spa you just let it all go, and leave it at the door. The greatness that is Canvas Skin Spa is attributable to Bridget who maintains a space that possesses exclusivity, and experience beyond measure.

My skin is delivering its peak performance as we speak as Canvas Skin Spa keeps it all the way together, and my nails are stronger than ever. My fashions and accessories are giving the girls life, and my heart is full from all of the love shared throughout the space that is Canvas Skin Spa.

I have been patronizing Canvas Skin Spa for approximately four months, but it feels like forever. I love this space so much that I have a standing weekly appointment for my services, as do the other customers that are in the know. Canvas Skin Spa has a demanding and consistent clientele, so you will have to get in where you fit in and try to get on the books for an appointment! No worries as the team always finds a way to fit you in.

Be sure to check out Canvas Skin Spa, Bridget and Danielle, sooner than later. You just may catch me in the mix acting an entire fool as per usual.



8327B Germantown Avenue
Philadelphia, PA 19118
215.991.6009


P.S.

Shoutout to Derrick and Seth for being gentlemen by always walking us ladies to our vehicles in the evening hour, and Brielle and Tori who prep us for our services, and laugh at all of our madness. You are all loved.



read more